Lady In Balance, LLC
February 3, 2017
It has been a little while since the last post and I figured that now rather than later would be a good time to write, rather than my journal. These last couple of months have been extremely busy with both family and work. It feels like the year is already going by fast with it already being February of 2017. Seriously, where does the time go? I have been waist deep, more like neck deep with family “stuff” and work “stuff” that I have neglected to really and truly take time for myself or even the things that I love and enjoy. I take that back, I make a conscious habit of exercising because it is my stress reliever, but next to that, I have been on the go with kids and career. My hubby and I try to make time for one another but even that has been too few and far between. Where is the balance in all of this? To realign and focus on balancing my life again, it starts here and now with taking time to do what I do best which reconnecting with my creativity and reconnecting with me.
October 8, 2016
How do you define yourself? Do you allow others to define who you are, what you do, and the choices you make about your life? Are there outside influences that constantly demand your attention, resources, and valuable time? All of these questions play a factor in how you see yourself, and how you present yourself to the world. Over the last couple of months, I have been focused on both personal and professional challenges that have really made me reflect on key areas in my life. One day during a moment of reflection, it dawned on me all of the questions about who defines me or even what defines me are irrelevant, because the most important question is who does God say that I am? How does God see me? I had the pleasure of participating in a workshop a couple of weeks ago and the focus of the workshop was just that who does God say that you are? Too many times, we often allow what we do, or other people try and define of who they want us to be. Unfortunately, this can come from people close to us, family, friends, etc. or you may define yourself by your career or how much money you make. These things do not define who you are as a child of God. These are limitations. One of my mentors, calls this..noise to get you off course. Quiet the noise and listen to the voice of God and what is said of you and who you are. You are so much more than what you have, and what you do. You are God’s Beloved, a child of the most high! Be who you are and stand proud! I Am. Be blessed.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment”
March 20, 2016
There is no rhyme or reason as to why things happen in life. In a world that may appear to be chaotic, in the cosmos there is perfect order and a natural flow to any and everything. For example, a woman on one side of the world decides to defer college for a year to travel abroad, and at the exact same moment, a young man decides to remain home to help his parents and finish school. The two meet exactly 6 months later in Manarola, a small town in Italy, and they fall in-love. A woman in her late 30’s decides to have a mammogram early, only to discover that she has breast cancer. The doctor’s advise her that if she would have waited until she was 40, it would have been too late to save her. Each moment you decide, and make decisions about your life. You decide what time to get up in the morning, you decide what to eat, you decide which route to take home, you decide to do your best, you decide to give love, and you decide to trust God in the midst of all those decisions. At this moment, what are you deciding in your life? Are you deciding to remain small? Or have you decided to grow tall and be all that you can be? Do not allow the chaotic moments to thrust you into a shell, where you stop making decisions, living, and trusting God in the process. You hold the power. Decide and trust.
“It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you get off on sometimes. What matters most is getting off. You cannot make progress without making decisions.”Jim Rohn
January 4, 2016
Happy New Year LIB Family! It is hard to believe that 2015 has come to a close and 2016 is here. As I reflect on the past year, I can say with complete honesty the year was bitter sweet. Bitter sweet in the sense that I experienced wonderful blessings in key areas of my life but encountered challenges in other areas, which caused some heartache and disappointment. It was in 2015, I graduated from the big girl panties and put on bloomers! Seriously, it was a year of tremendous gratitude and moments of tears. I made some decisions which caused me to grow both personally and professionally. As I leave 2015 behind, and move into 2016, I am conscious of the present moment, appreciating it, and owning who I am and living from a place of surrender, knowing that it all begins and ends with God. As the creator of what I believe to be an avenue to touch and inspire women around the world by sharing and expressing life’s trials, triumphs, and encouraging tidbits is what makes LIB so special. There are times when the rawness and realness of someone else’s journey can hit a core spot in someone’s heart, and resonate in another soul and move them. As we enter 2016, LIB will continue to inspire you with stories by women who value themselves and who are truly beautiful spiritual beings living life from a place of authenticity. We love you so much! Many, many, blessings to you in 2016!
To be nobody but myself-in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make me somebody else-means to fight the hardest battle any human can fight, and never stop fighting. – e.e. cummings
November 6, 2015
A couple of weeks ago after a very long day, I decided to head over to the gym to work out. It was one of the rare occasions, I was by myself without the little kiddies. With the cares of the day still on my mind, I was eager to shake it off and get the energy moving in my body to relax and de-stress a bit. I checked in at the front desk, strolled into the locker room, put my bag on the bench, walked over to the sauna, and turned it on (nothing feels better than ending a workout relaxing in the sauna). I opened up my gym bag to change into my work out gear, and low and behold I had forgotten to pack my sneakers and workout pants! Noooo! Did I mention I really wanted a few minutes to myself? Going back home was not an option. If I was not going to exercise, I was going to enjoy some quiet time in the sauna. I removed my clothes, grabbed a towel, my kindle, and I headed to the sauna. The quiet space, heat, and silence felt so good that I immediately began to unwind. Five minutes had gone by and a young woman enters the sauna and we greet each other with a sincere “Hi” and I resume enjoying the peaceful solitude of the sauna. The young lady turns to me and asks me a question about the Holy Spirit and God and proceeds to pray with me, over me, and through me. Until this day, I still do not know who she was and I have not seen her again. That evening I walked into the gym fully expecting to work out, instead what I received was a divine encounter with one of Gods messengers encouraging me to keep going and to believe in the gifts and miracles of God in me. During a time in my life, when I feel a bit overwhelmed with family, relationships, and career and wondering about God’s plan, and this particular phase in life, I was encouraged by a complete stranger to press forward. With that being said, it is very easy to get caught up with life and the cares of the day and miss the everyday miracles and blessings. From one woman to another, be encouraged. I thank God for you, and the divine moments in life that remind us that God is and God lives and breathes in each of us. Be a blessing!
September 7, 2015
You’re smart. You’re driven. You’re a “good girl.” You found out a long time ago that life goes more smoothly for people who follow the rules, so you learned the rulebook inside out. People expected things from you and you made it your job to live up to those expectations and probably beat yourself up on the inside when you fell short.
But now you’re stuck, the way anyone who has spent majority of their life making other people happier than they make themselves gets stuck.You wish you could go back to school to study what you really love doing, or maybe you want to start your own business, or move to a big city, or quit your high-stress, high-paying job and instead do simpler work for less money that makes you look forward to getting out of bed every day.
Every once in a while, when you’re not busy getting your to-do list checked off or giving your time to the people in your life who always seem to need you—when things get real quiet—you feel absolutely desperate or in robotic shock to do something out of the ordinary. Do something for yourself that is unexpected, unpredictable and just for you. You hear the clock ticking, and it’s the ticking off of the moments of a life that’s passing you by. You see a whole string of days ahead of you. Out of bed. Off to work. Watch the clock. Count the hours ‘til the weekend. Rejoice on Friday evening. Lament on Sunday night. Repeat.
Nothing new. Nothing real. Nothing joyful.
You know, somewhere inside you, that there has to be more than this.
I know you. I am you.
I realized not long ago that I’ve spent my entire life waiting for permission. Because I’m a good girl, you see. In my twenties I felt the burning desire in my heart for something more than a go-nowhere nine-to-five office job and playing “house”. I wanted a career as a singer. Travel. Excitement. Adventure. Heart-stopping moments of bliss.
And I wanted somebody—anybody—to tell me that it was okay, that I should go ahead with it. I don’t mean Oprah or some random person speaking to the masses. I wanted somebody who knew me to give me the green light.
Guess what? It never happened, and it never will. Why? Because nobody can give us permission but ourselves.
Nobody outside ourselves knows what’s going on in our hearts, no matter how we try to explain.
Have you ever found this to be true? You can try and try, but there’s a nuance, a depth of desire, that’s impossible to describe. It has to be felt, and nobody else can feel it but the person whose heart is burning. So we wait. We wait for permission. Many of us die waiting for it.
I don’t want to die waiting for it. Do you?
It’s time for us to come out of our shells and admit that we want more and remove the mask of simply being who you are. Let’s be honest with each other and ourselves about what we want out of life and who we are in life. Let’s truly support each other and push each other and not take any excuses.
And let’s stop taking guff from the rest of the world—the ones who are still too afraid to leave the status quo behind. If that’s really what they want, let’s bless them and then move the heck on, because life is too short to be wasted on wondering what somebody else thinks of us.
We simply have to be the heroes of our own lives. I’m willing to dust off my cape and step into that role.
Jenifer Bardall, Amazing Coach & Founder of www.honoryourself.net
June 26, 2015
I am reminded of a poem by Mother Teresa called “Anyway”. The first time I read this poem years ago in my sister’s office, it resonated with my spirit so much that I printed it off and keep it with me. It reminds me to move forward in life, doing what I love, doing and being love, in spite of what may be going in life.
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you
of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some
false friends and some true enemies;
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building,
someone could destroy overnight;
If you find serenity and happiness,
they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and
it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got … anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is
between you and God,
It never was between you and them anyway..
Have you ever been in a place in your life where everything seemed to be flowing and every single piece of the puzzle seemed to fit just right? You were in optimal health, relationships were solid, your business and/or career was booming, kids were on the straight and narrow, and you felt as if you were on the verge of spiritual enlightenment. It appeared as if all your plans, goals, and dreams, were finally coming together. Until one day, a huge stumbling block, better yet, a tornado comes along and shakes the foundation, misaligning the relationships, stressing your health, and has you looking to God like “WTH”?! Many of you know exactly what I am referring too. You were in the zone of life and something drastic happens which causes a ripple effect into every core area – love, family, career, and health. However, if you look a little closely, it appears even when life seems to be near perfect, there are still stumbling blocks along the way, relationships still have ups and downs, and there is always room for spiritual evolvement. However, some stumbling blocks seem to hit us a little harder, forcing us to grow a little more in those core areas of life. These stumbling blocks are yet another lesson on your journey of life to help make the pieces fit tighter, strengthen your relationships, and propel you to the next level. These challenges remind us that God always has a plan, the plan may not be aligned with your plans, but God’s plan is always working, and continually for your good in life and love. Lastly, through all of life’s ups and downs, we are always in the palm of God hands..
“I like to believe that you don’t need to reach a certain goal to be happy. I prefer to think that happiness is always there, and that when things don’t go the way we might like them to, it’s a sign from above that something even better is right around the corner.” David Archuleta
April 29, 2015
As you go through life and you experience life’s ups, downs, hills, and valleys, each experience has a way of staying with you, shaping you, and molding you into the person you are today. If you were born into a traditional family, where Mom stayed home, maintained the house, and prepared dinner every night, your expectation of what a “Mother’s role” would be slightly different than someone who grew up in a single family household where their Mom had to work two jobs. The perceptions and views of what you believe to be true would differ dramatically. The older you get, and the more experiences you have in life, shapes how you perceive the world and shifts based on your life encounters. Take for example, an individual born and raised in NY, accustomed to the hustle and grind of city life, may migrate to the South and perceive the area as laid back and such a refreshing change. It is all about perception, how they view and see the world around them. I have been to New York countless times, and even though it may be a busy city, there is a special connection to the city that is unique to me. The same is true in all different aspects of life for you, and for all of us. How we interact with people, relationships, and even God comes from our perceptions, and how we see the world around us. How are you perceiving the world around you? Are you looking at the world as a safe place? Are you looking at your life as half full or half empty? Have you allowed life’s ups and downs to change the way you see your life? Are you looking at life through God’s eyes or through the eyes of carnal man? These are questions that I have been asking myself and I am asking them to you. Do you need to change your perception on anything in your life? Are you seeing through God’s eyes of the Holy Spirit? Or are you seeing through eyes of man?!
“Reality is what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is what we believe.
What we believe is based upon our perceptions.
What we perceive depends upon what we look for.
What we look for depends upon what we think.
What we think depends upon what we perceive.
What we perceive determines what we believe.
What we believe determines what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is our reality.” Gary Zukov
November 26, 2014
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In All Things Give Thanks
When I was a little girl, the holiday season brought on so much excitement, joy, and anticipation. I remember feeling happy about having time off from school to relax and spend time with family, and friends. As a family, we would often attend church services, and my siblings and I would participate in various children ministries, so the deeper meaning of the holiday was in the forefront of my mind, along with the information taught at school. It was not until I grew a little older that I began to dive a little deeper into the meaning of certain holidays and I opened up to what resonated with me on spiritual level. As I reflect on what it means to be thankful this season, my heart is filled with so much gratitude and love for the many blessings in my life. At the same time, I am reminded to rejoice in all things. So, as you celebrate Thanksgiving with your family and friends, or if you are celebrating this holiday season by yourself, remember to give thanks for all things small and big in your life. It makes a difference. Have a Happy Thanksgiving!!
“So often we dwell on the things that seem impossible rather than on the things that are possible. So often we are depressed by what remains to be done and forget to be thankful for all that has been done.” Marian Wright Edelman”
“Let your heart rejoice in the good, bad, and even the ugly and thank God for the lessons and blessings!”