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Bet On YourSelf

Thursday, January 23rd, 2014

Touchdown!! These are the words that we hear when a team scores a “point” during football or kicks the ball into the field goal (is it obvious I’m not into football). At any rate, all bets are on a specific team to win, and each distinct play brings the team closer to winning or further from it. How does this compare to your life? Better yet, how does this compare to the choices that you have made about yourself? Each distinct choice that you have made whether it was big or small says “I’m betting on me” or “I am betting against me”. To put it in simple terms, you either believe in yourself and your dreams or you don’t. For once in your life bet on yourself and believe in you. A couple of years ago, when I fresh out of college, I had started consulting for a small company and during one of my meetings, one of the guys said to me “Remember to toot your own horn, and applaud your successes, because if you don’t, no one else will”. Well, betting on yourself is simply saying “Yes” to you, your dreams, and life. You only live once and it serves no one to play small and play against yourself, allowing life’s mishaps, and temporary setbacks to win.  To bet on “you” takes courage, “gusto”, and it involves risks but at the end of the day, you will be living life based on your terms, dreams, wants, and desires, instead of living someone else’s. It is time to bet on you, love.

“To be a champ, you have to believe in yourself, even when no one else does” Sugar Ray Robinson

“Wait for ze wind” By Shay Seaborne

Thursday, January 23rd, 2014

Lake     The couple did not show for their sailing lesson, and neither did the wind. These are two potential- and fairly common disappointments for a sailing instructor. I had taken time to prepare for the lesson and drive to the dock, for seemingly no reason. In order to make something good of my trouble, I walked down the beach a bit, to at least enjoy being near the river, even if it was glass. My cell phone rang, and I saw that it was Morgan, an older gentleman whom I had met when he contacted me about the possibility of being a leader for my Sea Scout ship.

Morgan was a lifelong sailor who had not been out on a boat for over a year, since a scuba diving incident had left him disabled. He had made great headway, but was still recovering his balance and coordination, both of which are important faculties for sailors. I invited the retired naval officer to join me at the dock. We took out a Catalina 22,  just to say we did, and in hopes that the fickle wind might rise and give us a ride.

Morgan and I  chatted for almost two hours as MOONSHADOW drifted northward to Neabsco Creek on the incoming tide. He told me that he had grown up sailing in Connecticut, aboard “every size and type of boat there is from Woodpussy catboats to Maxi racers,” sailing through adulthood and on past retirement from the US Navy, only stopping after the diving accident had left him nearly paralyzed.

Given his love for sailing and his absence from it, Morgan was happy just to be on a boat, even if we never raised a sail. We traded stories as we sat in the boat on the river, airless, pushed upstream by the current and avoiding crab pot markers by sculling. Morgan told me about being aboard the boat of his father’s friend, a Frenchman with whom he sailed when young. The wooden vessel had no motor, and the wind died when they were far from shore, leaving the crew stranded. When someone asked the Frenchman, “What do we do now?” the old salt replied, “We wait for ze wind,” with emphasis on “wait” and “wind.” Morgan informed me that this phrase immediately became part of his family’s sailing culture; whenever the wind disappeared, someone would recount that excursion and quote the Frenchman.

MOONSHADOW has a small outboard, so on the day Morgan and I were out, we were not stranded. I simply fired up the motor and puttered back to the dock when we were ready to go ashore. However, after that day, I repeatedly thought of the Frenchman’s  statement, “We wait for ze wind,” and recognized that it is not only a reminder of the necessity of patience, but also of the need to keep faith. A sailor who waits for “ze wind” is doing so because she must; it is futile to try to control the wind, and to be impatient is to ruin an otherwise good day on the water. The sailor also waits with the knowledge- the faith that the wind will return, not whenever it is convenient for us, but on its own timetable. And so it is with life; we cannot determine when the wind will come, or where it will take us, and impatience does nothing to make any positive difference. Therefore, our best choice is to enjoy companionship while we wait, in patience and faith, for a fresh breeze in a new direction, taking us to where we had not thought we would go.

The wind comes of its own accord; we cannot know when or how or for how long it will blow–only that we need to take advantage of the good wind days, to sail, to enjoy, to drink them in.

Shay Seaborne

Happy New Year!

Wednesday, January 1st, 2014

Happy New Year! For many individuals a new year means new beginnings, a time of change, transition, continual evolvement and transformation. All in all, as you begin this year, open your heart and mind to all the good things that are happening in this moment in your life and what will happen for you this year. As I reflect over 2013, it was definitely a year of blessings and huge adjustments. As I embark on 2014, there are a few key points that resonate with me that I would like to share with you. Enjoy!
Key Points for 2014
1 Do What Is Right For You
Take an honest assessment of your life, dreams, and goals and follow the path that you desire. It serves no one and hurts you if you go through life chasing someone else’s dream or competing against somebody else’s timeline. Travel your own path, and march to the sound of your own tune.

2.                Believe That You Can
The power to believe in yourself and to believe that anything is possible for you is absolutely essential to moving forward, upward, and on in life. Belief in yourself, coupled with faith and knowing that God desires the best for you in life, will give you the extra nudge to push harder, persist, and to put one foot in front of the other to be the best that you can be and to live on purpose and with purpose.

3.      Get rid of Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda
If you spend your life repeatedly telling yourself – “I shoulda, coulda, woulda” more than likely you never will“shoulda, coulda, woulda”. Time waits for no one, so if you waste your time dwelling on what you should have done in 2013, or what you would have done, etc, you will miss the opportunity to do what you have been talking about doing in 2014. Focus on what is important right now in your life. Focus on what you want to achieve right now in your life, set the intention and all else will fall in line. <br><br>

4. Let Go of Expectations
This is one of my personal favorites because it speaks the loudest to my heart. Be willing to let go of personal expectations of how you feel your life should be at this moment in time. Let go of what you thought or perceived your ideal life would look like at 25, 35, 45, or even 55 years of age. The truth is life happens. You have to be able to “Let go” and allow “God In”. What may look like chaos to you, may be order to God. What may look like imperfection to you, may be perfect to God. Trust that God has it all figured out and has already made the crooked places straight. Continue to move forward with plans, desires, dreams, and goals, but when “life happens” and unexpected events occur, simply trust the process and continue to move forward.

5. Take time for You
It is essential for you to take time for yourself this year. In order to build confidence, move forward on your own path, and let go, it is important to take time to cultivate, nourish, and tend to the relationship with the one and only – you. Fall in love with being you, the beautiful, magnificent, gift from God.

“Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us. Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” — Oprah Winfrey

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