A couple of weeks ago after a very long day, I decided to head over to the gym to work out. It was one of the rare occasions, I was by myself without the little kiddies. With the cares of the day still on my mind, I was eager to shake it off and get the energy moving in my body to relax and de-stress a bit. I checked in at the front desk, strolled into the locker room, put my bag on the bench, walked over to the sauna, and turned it on (nothing feels better than ending a workout relaxing in the sauna). I opened up my gym bag to change into my work out gear, and low and behold I had forgotten to pack my sneakers and workout pants! Noooo! Did I mention I really wanted a few minutes to myself? Going back home was not an option. If I was not going to exercise, I was going to enjoy some quiet time in the sauna. I removed my clothes, grabbed a towel, my kindle, and I headed to the sauna. The quiet space, heat, and silence felt so good that I immediately began to unwind. Five minutes had gone by and a young woman enters the sauna and we greet each other with a sincere “Hi” and I resume enjoying the peaceful solitude of the sauna. The young lady turns to me and asks me a question about the Holy Spirit and God and proceeds to pray with me, over me, and through me. Until this day, I still do not know who she was and I have not seen her again. That evening I walked into the gym fully expecting to work out, instead what I received was a divine encounter with one of Gods messengers encouraging me to keep going and to believe in the gifts and miracles of God in me. During a time in my life, when I feel a bit overwhelmed with family, relationships, and career and wondering about God’s plan, and this particular phase in life, I was encouraged by a complete stranger to press forward. With that being said, it is very easy to get caught up with life and the cares of the day and miss the everyday miracles and blessings. From one woman to another, be encouraged. I thank God for you, and the divine moments in life that remind us that God is and God lives and breathes in each of us. Be a blessing!
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As you go through life and you experience life’s ups, downs, hills, and valleys, each experience has a way of staying with you, shaping you, and molding you into the person you are today. If you were born into a traditional family, where Mom stayed home, maintained the house, and prepared dinner every night, your expectation of what a “Mother’s role” would be slightly different than someone who grew up in a single family household where their Mom had to work two jobs. The perceptions and views of what you believe to be true would differ dramatically. The older you get, and the more experiences you have in life, shapes how you perceive the world and shifts based on your life encounters. Take for example, an individual born and raised in NY, accustomed to the hustle and grind of city life, may migrate to the South and perceive the area as laid back and such a refreshing change. It is all about perception, how they view and see the world around them. I have been to New York countless times, and even though it may be a busy city, there is a special connection to the city that is unique to me. The same is true in all different aspects of life for you, and for all of us. How we interact with people, relationships, and even God comes from our perceptions, and how we see the world around us. How are you perceiving the world around you? Are you looking at the world as a safe place? Are you looking at your life as half full or half empty? Have you allowed life’s ups and downs to change the way you see your life? Are you looking at life through God’s eyes or through the eyes of carnal man? These are questions that I have been asking myself and I am asking them to you. Do you need to change your perception on anything in your life? Are you seeing through God’s eyes of the Holy Spirit? Or are you seeing through eyes of man?!
“Reality is what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is what we believe.
What we believe is based upon our perceptions.
What we perceive depends upon what we look for.
What we look for depends upon what we think.
What we think depends upon what we perceive.
What we perceive determines what we believe.
What we believe determines what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is our reality.” Gary Zukov
LIB is super excited to share one of the projects we are working on which involves inspirational affirmations for the woman who simply wants to just be! As we roll these out each month, feel free to share your favorite affirmations or quotes and who knows it may be featured in the next newsletter!
Keep It Real With Yourself
Have you ever found yourself questioning the plan and purpose of your life? You may find yourself asking this question, when life throws you a curveball or if you feel like no matter how persistent you, stumbling blocks get in the way, or something happens that completely takes you off course. You may wonder is God saying No? Not now? Or is it a sign you should give up and settle for the status quo? No doubt, I think we have all been there. It’s during these moments where you should stop and shift your focus to love and take an honest assessment of where you are in your thoughts, actions, and life at the moment. For example, What is the true reason why you want to have your own successful business? Is it because you truly want to be your own “Boss”, or do you want to create a legacy and utilize your gifts and talents to serve the world your way? Whatever reason it is, be honest with your intentions and come from an internal place of love and truth. Be real and honest with yourself. In the meantime, if that “something” continually calls your name. Answer the call, openly, honestly and with love. The doors may not open when you want them too, but eventually the light will shine, doors will open, and things will take off for you! Keep moving forward and embracing the process and journey.
“Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward in the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence” Og Mandino”
I trust and believe that all is well and working out for my good.
Touchdown!! These are the words that we hear when a team scores a “point” during football or kicks the ball into the field goal (is it obvious I’m not into football). At any rate, all bets are on a specific team to win, and each distinct play brings the team closer to winning or further from it. How does this compare to your life? Better yet, how does this compare to the choices that you have made about yourself? Each distinct choice that you have made whether it was big or small says “I’m betting on me” or “I am betting against me”. To put it in simple terms, you either believe in yourself and your dreams or you don’t. For once in your life bet on yourself and believe in you. A couple of years ago, when I fresh out of college, I had started consulting for a small company and during one of my meetings, one of the guys said to me “Remember to toot your own horn, and applaud your successes, because if you don’t, no one else will”. Well, betting on yourself is simply saying “Yes” to you, your dreams, and life. You only live once and it serves no one to play small and play against yourself, allowing life’s mishaps, and temporary setbacks to win. To bet on “you” takes courage, “gusto”, and it involves risks but at the end of the day, you will be living life based on your terms, dreams, wants, and desires, instead of living someone else’s. It is time to bet on you, love.
“To be a champ, you have to believe in yourself, even when no one else does” Sugar Ray Robinson
Happy New Year! For many individuals a new year means new beginnings, a time of change, transition, continual evolvement and transformation. All in all, as you begin this year, open your heart and mind to all the good things that are happening in this moment in your life and what will happen for you this year. As I reflect over 2013, it was definitely a year of blessings and huge adjustments. As I embark on 2014, there are a few key points that resonate with me that I would like to share with you. Enjoy!
Key Points for 2014
1 Do What Is Right For You
Take an honest assessment of your life, dreams, and goals and follow the path that you desire. It serves no one and hurts you if you go through life chasing someone else’s dream or competing against somebody else’s timeline. Travel your own path, and march to the sound of your own tune.
2. Believe That You Can
The power to believe in yourself and to believe that anything is possible for you is absolutely essential to moving forward, upward, and on in life. Belief in yourself, coupled with faith and knowing that God desires the best for you in life, will give you the extra nudge to push harder, persist, and to put one foot in front of the other to be the best that you can be and to live on purpose and with purpose.
3. Get rid of Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda
If you spend your life repeatedly telling yourself – “I shoulda, coulda, woulda” more than likely you never will“shoulda, coulda, woulda”. Time waits for no one, so if you waste your time dwelling on what you should have done in 2013, or what you would have done, etc, you will miss the opportunity to do what you have been talking about doing in 2014. Focus on what is important right now in your life. Focus on what you want to achieve right now in your life, set the intention and all else will fall in line. <br><br>
4. Let Go of Expectations
This is one of my personal favorites because it speaks the loudest to my heart. Be willing to let go of personal expectations of how you feel your life should be at this moment in time. Let go of what you thought or perceived your ideal life would look like at 25, 35, 45, or even 55 years of age. The truth is life happens. You have to be able to “Let go” and allow “God In”. What may look like chaos to you, may be order to God. What may look like imperfection to you, may be perfect to God. Trust that God has it all figured out and has already made the crooked places straight. Continue to move forward with plans, desires, dreams, and goals, but when “life happens” and unexpected events occur, simply trust the process and continue to move forward.
5. Take time for You
It is essential for you to take time for yourself this year. In order to build confidence, move forward on your own path, and let go, it is important to take time to cultivate, nourish, and tend to the relationship with the one and only – you. Fall in love with being you, the beautiful, magnificent, gift from God.
“Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us. Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” — Oprah Winfrey
Have you ever felt fearful about going in a different direction or trying something new? The little voice in your head tries to talk you out of doing it by telling you it’s “unfamiliar” or “different”, and you feel the resistance building up in your bones. It could be something as little as taking a different way home or something risker, such as changing careers..whatever it maybe, you felt unsure about it. However, deep inside your soul, you knew it was something that you had to do. Just think about the countless amazing women who have done extraordinary things despite their fears, or who have overcome tremendous obstacles and moved on to achieve great things in their lifetime. At one point or another along their journey these women felt fear, or apprehension but choose to move forward and do it anyway. Take for example, Diana Nyad, legendary swimmer, at 64 yrs of age, swam from Cuba to Florida. That is absolutely amazing..insane..but amazing. Better yet, Cheryl B, a 50+ mother, career woman, and divorcee, decided to participate in a 62 mile bike ride and successfully completed it! These are ordinary women, deciding to do something they have never, ever, done before. This is YOU and me. During the LIB workshop “Living From the Core”, Guest Speaker and Fitness Expert “Rebecca Olsen, shared the importance of following your own internal “GPS” and most importantly being true to who we are, which can sometimes involve doing things that may be fearful that will ultimately open a whole new set of doors and opportunities that we, otherwise would have missed, had we let our fears get the best of us. Bottom line, if there is something that you have longed to do for years, months, days, or even hours, take the steps to do them NOW!
“What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step. It is always the same step, but you have to take it” Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Now more than ever, we seem to be hearing more about being “vulnerable” and “open” and for the first time in a long time, I feel soooo vulnerable. The exact reason why I feel vulnerable is mostly due to me writing my first book and sharing so much of myself in the book and with thousands, if not, millions of people all over the world. In addition, it also involves standing fully in who I am, which is a creative being, who feels fully present when I am able to be expressive and share a piece of myself that ignites the inside of my soul with the world. It also means being open to being judged, and rejection, that can be a bit scary. But there is a powerful voice that resonates with me and it says “Do it anyway”. The interesting part is that it’s only a piece…. Shall I share more? Shall I express more? Can I be even more open with myself and the world?
” If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself” Unknown
Wow, it’s August! Where did the summer go? I love the month of August. It’s hot, usually always sunny, and has such a powerful meaning. It means inspiring reverence or admiration; of supreme dignity or grandeur; majestic. I would like to start off by thanking Ms. Angela Bryce for inviting me to share a piece of me, with LIB. It’s quite ironic that on most days I feel like a lady out of balance. The moment I sat down to write I felt conflicted on just what to say. I asked myself, would the words I choose to write be too revealing? What have I committed myself to? It became apparent to me that the unknown was starting to consume me. In the mist of my mental storm I decided to step away and go back to drafting up my dream list, which I call my 10 steps forward. It’s something I have been working on for a while. One might ask, why only 10? I could choose to take even more steps forward. After all, it is my choice. Just to give you an example, one of my 10 steps was to complete this LIB piece, another is to travel to Paris. My third step is to be moved into a new living space, which is happening this month, August 31st.For most of my adult life, my fears have greatly influenced my choices. My choice to limit my options, my choice to remain a broken-fatherless daughter, my choice to remain insecure about wanting and knowing that I deserve more, my choice to hold on to stagnant relationships, my choice to care too much about what my peers may think.
I acknowledge a large part of the problem lies within me. Now I am getting to the core of where it all sits. My thoughts are saturated with fear. It’s not every day, but more often than I’ve ever dared to admit. To be exposed and naked in front of others and anxiously anticipating their judgment haunts me. It’s much easier just to smile and project the illusion of happiness. I’ve realized it’s time to take responsibility and ownership of my life. Many of us are guilty of expecting others to give more than we’re capable or willing to give ourselves. It is my duty to live up to my own expectations. There is so much material out there on different sites on how to push forward, stay positive, be ambitious, and let go of the past. There are days where that seems achievable, but far too often the thought of my own reality cripples me. My truths are what make me insecure, and trigger my feeling out of balance. It’s a constant struggle to find the balance between work, motherhood, life, relationships, etc. How I manage, is nothing short of a miracle. I work forty hours a week, commute for 4 hours a day to and from work. Somehow I have to save energy for dinner time with the family, go over the day’s events and also manage to keep up with the parent committee task? I won’t even begin to mention dating. I have offered myself the opportunity to go on a journey to find ME, reclaim me, and create balance in me. As Iyanla Vanzant would say – I have a ton of UN’s in my suitcase and I keep carrying them everywhere I go. Goodbye to my representative and hello to the real me. It is time to remove the mask and look in the mirror. My therapist encouraged me to uncover myself some time ago and I now understand what she meant. She didn’t mean to uncover for someone else, she meant undress so I could re-discover myself. Fear keeps me hidden behind the mask. I’ve decided to get in the race instead of watching from the bleachers. Winning is not what I strive for. I am not moved by money or winning. I just want to make it to the finish line. The issue is I take myself out of the race before the gun goes off. FEAR is the most crippling feeling, one I am all too accustomed. When I think of my darling angel, my beautiful teenage daughter, I realize that I am giving her all the advice that’s been given to me, but how can I call myself a guide when I don’t follow my own instructions?
Going back to my list of dreams, I am going to check off each one on my steps forward until there are no more boxes to check. Heck, I may add a few more. It’s time to focus on what I have been blessed with. Removing the mask is no easy task, but it will never happen by standing still. I’ve put on my boots and tied them up tight and I am ready to march. I am in soul search boot camp! My hope is that the bits and pieces I’ve shared will touch another soul and inspire someone else to remove their mask. I thank the Lord for blessing me with the life I have and for my friends & family that continue to inspire me. It is with great humility that I accept my own imperfections and now balance is in order.
” Our lives only improve when we are willing to take chances and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.” ~Walter Anderson
“Always remember to slow down in life; live, breathe, and learn; take a look around you whenever you have time and never forget everything and every person that has the least place within your heart.”
Do you know the power of love? Do you know how much influence the power of love in various different capacities has on this world, lives, and choices that people make each and everyday? There are many facets of “love” and in our society, the power of love, if not directed or driven with the best and purest intentions, can cause more harm than good. However, real love, expressed by purity of heart and soul, can and will exude enough powerful energy that those that encounter it’s presence, cannot but help to be transformed and changed because of it’s undeniable force. Pure love causes a peace, joy, and serenity in the soul, and shines a light so bright that one cannot help but to surrender in it’s awe and bountiful beauty.
You as a creation of the divine dwell in the magnificence of “love” everydayof your life. Are you aware of its power to move through you and as you? Choose today to open your heart, mind, and soul to yield to the brilliance of love.
Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic.” Martin Luther King Jr