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Angela Bryce ’
Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
Touchdown!! These are the words that we hear when a team scores a “point” during football or kicks the ball into the field goal (is it obvious I’m not into football). At any rate, all bets are on a specific team to win, and each distinct play brings the team closer to winning or further from it. How does this compare to your life? Better yet, how does this compare to the choices that you have made about yourself? Each distinct choice that you have made whether it was big or small says “I’m betting on me” or “I am betting against me”. To put it in simple terms, you either believe in yourself and your dreams or you don’t. For once in your life bet on yourself and believe in you. A couple of years ago, when I fresh out of college, I had started consulting for a small company and during one of my meetings, one of the guys said to me “Remember to toot your own horn, and applaud your successes, because if you don’t, no one else will”. Well, betting on yourself is simply saying “Yes” to you, your dreams, and life. You only live once and it serves no one to play small and play against yourself, allowing life’s mishaps, and temporary setbacks to win. To bet on “you” takes courage, “gusto”, and it involves risks but at the end of the day, you will be living life based on your terms, dreams, wants, and desires, instead of living someone else’s. It is time to bet on you, love.
“To be a champ, you have to believe in yourself, even when no one else does” Sugar Ray Robinson
Wednesday, January 1st, 2014
Happy New Year! For many individuals a new year means new beginnings, a time of change, transition, continual evolvement and transformation. All in all, as you begin this year, open your heart and mind to all the good things that are happening in this moment in your life and what will happen for you this year. As I reflect over 2013, it was definitely a year of blessings and huge adjustments. As I embark on 2014, there are a few key points that resonate with me that I would like to share with you. Enjoy!
Key Points for 2014
1 Do What Is Right For You
Take an honest assessment of your life, dreams, and goals and follow the path that you desire. It serves no one and hurts you if you go through life chasing someone else’s dream or competing against somebody else’s timeline. Travel your own path, and march to the sound of your own tune.
2. Believe That You Can
The power to believe in yourself and to believe that anything is possible for you is absolutely essential to moving forward, upward, and on in life. Belief in yourself, coupled with faith and knowing that God desires the best for you in life, will give you the extra nudge to push harder, persist, and to put one foot in front of the other to be the best that you can be and to live on purpose and with purpose.
3. Get rid of Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda
If you spend your life repeatedly telling yourself – “I shoulda, coulda, woulda” more than likely you never will“shoulda, coulda, woulda”. Time waits for no one, so if you waste your time dwelling on what you should have done in 2013, or what you would have done, etc, you will miss the opportunity to do what you have been talking about doing in 2014. Focus on what is important right now in your life. Focus on what you want to achieve right now in your life, set the intention and all else will fall in line. <br><br>
4. Let Go of Expectations
This is one of my personal favorites because it speaks the loudest to my heart. Be willing to let go of personal expectations of how you feel your life should be at this moment in time. Let go of what you thought or perceived your ideal life would look like at 25, 35, 45, or even 55 years of age. The truth is life happens. You have to be able to “Let go” and allow “God In”. What may look like chaos to you, may be order to God. What may look like imperfection to you, may be perfect to God. Trust that God has it all figured out and has already made the crooked places straight. Continue to move forward with plans, desires, dreams, and goals, but when “life happens” and unexpected events occur, simply trust the process and continue to move forward.
5. Take time for You
It is essential for you to take time for yourself this year. In order to build confidence, move forward on your own path, and let go, it is important to take time to cultivate, nourish, and tend to the relationship with the one and only – you. Fall in love with being you, the beautiful, magnificent, gift from God.
“Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us. Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” — Oprah Winfrey
Wednesday, November 27th, 2013
Have you ever felt fearful about going in a different direction or trying something new? The little voice in your head tries to talk you out of doing it by telling you it’s “unfamiliar” or “different”, and you feel the resistance building up in your bones. It could be something as little as taking a different way home or something risker, such as changing careers..whatever it maybe, you felt unsure about it. However, deep inside your soul, you knew it was something that you had to do. Just think about the countless amazing women who have done extraordinary things despite their fears, or who have overcome tremendous obstacles and moved on to achieve great things in their lifetime. At one point or another along their journey these women felt fear, or apprehension but choose to move forward and do it anyway. Take for example, Diana Nyad, legendary swimmer, at 64 yrs of age, swam from Cuba to Florida. That is absolutely amazing..insane..but amazing. Better yet, Cheryl B, a 50+ mother, career woman, and divorcee, decided to participate in a 62 mile bike ride and successfully completed it! These are ordinary women, deciding to do something they have never, ever, done before. This is YOU and me. During the LIB workshop “Living From the Core”, Guest Speaker and Fitness Expert “Rebecca Olsen, shared the importance of following your own internal “GPS” and most importantly being true to who we are, which can sometimes involve doing things that may be fearful that will ultimately open a whole new set of doors and opportunities that we, otherwise would have missed, had we let our fears get the best of us. Bottom line, if there is something that you have longed to do for years, months, days, or even hours, take the steps to do them NOW!
“What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step. It is always the same step, but you have to take it” Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Wednesday, October 30th, 2013
Now more than ever, we seem to be hearing more about being “vulnerable” and “open” and for the first time in a long time, I feel soooo vulnerable. The exact reason why I feel vulnerable is mostly due to me writing my first book and sharing so much of myself in the book and with thousands, if not, millions of people all over the world. In addition, it also involves standing fully in who I am, which is a creative being, who feels fully present when I am able to be expressive and share a piece of myself that ignites the inside of my soul with the world. It also means being open to being judged, and rejection, that can be a bit scary. But there is a powerful voice that resonates with me and it says “Do it anyway”. The interesting part is that it’s only a piece…. Shall I share more? Shall I express more? Can I be even more open with myself and the world?
Friday, October 4th, 2013
Have you been honest with yourself or have you been lying about how you truly feel? Are you numb to how you feel about yourself and your life? Being honest about how you see yourself and your life takes courage. There are times when being honest means acknowledging the flaws, imperfections, and ugliness that makes up who “You” are and embracing all the beautiful, quirky, unique aspects of “You” and celebrating them. Being honest is being able to admit to yourself “I can be difficult” and it can mean having the guts to say “I am blessed!” Being honest is taking an assessment of all aspects of your life, relationships, career, health, finances, and admitting that certain areas need work. It is about taking full responsibility for your life and owning who you are and where you are in life. Being honest is giving yourself permission to simply be who you are and believing what you live, and living what you believe.
” If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself” Unknown
Saturday, August 17th, 2013
Wow, it’s August! Where did the summer go? I love the month of August. It’s hot, usually always sunny, and has such a powerful meaning. It means inspiring reverence or admiration; of supreme dignity or grandeur; majestic. I would like to start off by thanking Ms. Angela Bryce for inviting me to share a piece of me, with LIB. It’s quite ironic that on most days I feel like a lady out of balance. The moment I sat down to write I felt conflicted on just what to say. I asked myself, would the words I choose to write be too revealing? What have I committed myself to? It became apparent to me that the unknown was starting to consume me. In the mist of my mental storm I decided to step away and go back to drafting up my dream list, which I call my 10 steps forward. It’s something I have been working on for a while. One might ask, why only 10? I could choose to take even more steps forward. After all, it is my choice. Just to give you an example, one of my 10 steps was to complete this LIB piece, another is to travel to Paris. My third step is to be moved into a new living space, which is happening this month, August 31st.For most of my adult life, my fears have greatly influenced my choices. My choice to limit my options, my choice to remain a broken-fatherless daughter, my choice to remain insecure about wanting and knowing that I deserve more, my choice to hold on to stagnant relationships, my choice to care too much about what my peers may think.
I acknowledge a large part of the problem lies within me. Now I am getting to the core of where it all sits. My thoughts are saturated with fear. It’s not every day, but more often than I’ve ever dared to admit. To be exposed and naked in front of others and anxiously anticipating their judgment haunts me. It’s much easier just to smile and project the illusion of happiness. I’ve realized it’s time to take responsibility and ownership of my life. Many of us are guilty of expecting others to give more than we’re capable or willing to give ourselves. It is my duty to live up to my own expectations. There is so much material out there on different sites on how to push forward, stay positive, be ambitious, and let go of the past. There are days where that seems achievable, but far too often the thought of my own reality cripples me. My truths are what make me insecure, and trigger my feeling out of balance. It’s a constant struggle to find the balance between work, motherhood, life, relationships, etc. How I manage, is nothing short of a miracle. I work forty hours a week, commute for 4 hours a day to and from work. Somehow I have to save energy for dinner time with the family, go over the day’s events and also manage to keep up with the parent committee task? I won’t even begin to mention dating. I have offered myself the opportunity to go on a journey to find ME, reclaim me, and create balance in me. As Iyanla Vanzant would say – I have a ton of UN’s in my suitcase and I keep carrying them everywhere I go. Goodbye to my representative and hello to the real me. It is time to remove the mask and look in the mirror. My therapist encouraged me to uncover myself some time ago and I now understand what she meant. She didn’t mean to uncover for someone else, she meant undress so I could re-discover myself. Fear keeps me hidden behind the mask. I’ve decided to get in the race instead of watching from the bleachers. Winning is not what I strive for. I am not moved by money or winning. I just want to make it to the finish line. The issue is I take myself out of the race before the gun goes off. FEAR is the most crippling feeling, one I am all too accustomed. When I think of my darling angel, my beautiful teenage daughter, I realize that I am giving her all the advice that’s been given to me, but how can I call myself a guide when I don’t follow my own instructions?
Going back to my list of dreams, I am going to check off each one on my steps forward until there are no more boxes to check. Heck, I may add a few more. It’s time to focus on what I have been blessed with. Removing the mask is no easy task, but it will never happen by standing still. I’ve put on my boots and tied them up tight and I am ready to march. I am in soul search boot camp! My hope is that the bits and pieces I’ve shared will touch another soul and inspire someone else to remove their mask. I thank the Lord for blessing me with the life I have and for my friends & family that continue to inspire me. It is with great humility that I accept my own imperfections and now balance is in order.
” Our lives only improve when we are willing to take chances and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.” ~Walter Anderson
“Always remember to slow down in life; live, breathe, and learn; take a look around you whenever you have time and never forget everything and every person that has the least place within your heart.”
Saturday, February 16th, 2013
Do you know the power of love? Do you know how much influence the power of love in various different capacities has on this world, lives, and choices that people make each and everyday? There are many facets of “love” and in our society, the power of love, if not directed or driven with the best and purest intentions, can cause more harm than good. However, real love, expressed by purity of heart and soul, can and will exude enough powerful energy that those that encounter it’s presence, cannot but help to be transformed and changed because of it’s undeniable force. Pure love causes a peace, joy, and serenity in the soul, and shines a light so bright that one cannot help but to surrender in it’s awe and bountiful beauty.
You as a creation of the divine dwell in the magnificence of “love” everydayof your life. Are you aware of its power to move through you and as you? Choose today to open your heart, mind, and soul to yield to the brilliance of love.
Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic.” Martin Luther King Jr
Saturday, December 8th, 2012
Can you believe that 2012 is nearly coming to a close and 2013 is right around the corner?! This year has been filled with many unexpected blessings and challenges. On a personal level, my family experienced tremendous heartache and tremendous joy this year. One of my close family members was diagnosed with a very rare cancer, another close family member passed, and my sisters welcomed two new little blessings into the world. If we were to include the natural events that have rocked many parts of the country, Hurricane Sandy to name one, you would agree that something is calling for us to wake up. With everything that has happened, and everything that is to come, now more than ever, we are called to “be” at a higher level of spiritual awareness than ever before. How can we ever go back to business as usual? Personally, I had to take a moment, dig deep, and truly ask myself, is it possible to operate as “business as usual”? It would be careless of me to tell you that I had an epiphany, and now I live in the back woods of some remote island. Nope, that is definitely not it. However, I can firmly say that is not the reason why God placed in me to create LIB or even put us here! We desire more and we want the same for you! If we just listen, and adhere to the messages of God and the holy spirit, the picture will become clear, and the message will be strong. We need to take a moment, free from the outside noise of this world, and remember the innate reason why God has placed us in the world. Sometimes, we can get so caught up in doing, that we simply forget to “be”. Unexpected blessings come and shower us with love, while unexpected challenges, rock us, wake us up, and jolt us to take action. Have you ever experienced an unexpected blessing that shocked you to the core? Well, that is another story for another time! However, you decide whether to let these blessings or challenges move your spirit, heart, and mind, into action. It is up to you!
” May God give you…For every storm a rainbow, for every tear a smile, for every care a promise and a blessing in each trial. For every problem life sends, a faithful friend to share, for every sigh a sweet song and an answer for each prayer” Irish Blessing
Much Love to you,
Friday, June 1st, 2012
Who and what defines normal? An even better question is what exactly does it mean to be “normal”? Webster’s dictionary defines normal as “conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal”. Let’s say a young woman, scholar, decides that instead of accepting a full scholarship to school, she decides to follow in her Grandfather’s footsteps and live in the Himalayas for 2 years, trekking and exploring the land, and world around her. A few blocks away, a young woman decides to pursue a career in architectural design, never marry, but adopt children. A few more blocks down the road, a young man decides that right after college, he and his longtime girlfriend will get married, have 2 kids, and live in a house with a white picket fence in the suburbs of Saddle River, NJ. Is any one of these individuals less normal than the other? Is it considered normal for a man to stay home with the children and his wife go off to work? Is it normal for two people to be married but live in two different households? Is it normal to pray to God, Krishna, or Allah? Is it normal to be born with red hair or black? Is it normal for a woman to love sex more than a man? Is it normal to have the desire to live life with full abundance or endure life and suffer in hopes of “promise” on the other side? Who and what defines normal for you? Does society define it? I will be the first to say that I am far from normal. When I was a kid, I was perceived as a bit “abnormal” because I was “non-talkative” and very shy. Fast forward to my adulthood, I could be considered somewhat “abnormal” for some of the wacky things that I have said, done, and believe. However, that is not for you to decide, it is for me to decide. Normal can only be defined by “You”. Think about it, social norms” can be defined as a “pattern of behavior, in a particular group, community, or culture, accepted as normal and to which an individual is accepted to conform”. So in essence, if everyone is doing the same thing, acting the same way, believing the same thing, and skipping to the same tune, society will consider you “normal” or lack of a better word “a robot”. Would you rather be considered “normal” just to be “accepted” in society or would you rather express yourself fully and be comfortable with who you are as a person. I choose the latter, what about you?
“The possibility of stepping into a higher plane is quite real for everyone. It requires no force or effort or sacrifice. It involves little more than changing our ideas about what is normal.” Deepak Chopra
“Normal is not something to aspire to, it is something to get away from” Jodie Foster
Sunday, May 6th, 2012
Are you willing to make the commitment to change, and do what is necessary to be the person God has ordained you to be, live the life you were created to live, and be the blessing that you are to this world at this very moment in time? This is a very powerful question that each and every person must be willing to ask themselves and be courageous enough to answer it with an open heart and truthfully. After all, only you, the Holy Spirit, and God will know the answer. Life is full of the “known” and “unknown” and to be willing to show up fully for yourself and for others is living life with an open heart, giving spirit, and willing soul. When your mind, body, and spirit answer “Yes, I am willing!” it is an expression to the cosmic world and universe that you are “here”, “willing” and you are “present”. To be willing is to experience the good, bad, and ugly of life. However, when we open our heart and mind with a resounding “Yes!” we experience life on a deeper, fuller level. Be willing to say “yes” to life and simply be willing.
“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;….
” Change is the essence of life.Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become.“