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Happy New Year!

Monday, January 4th, 2016

Happy New Year LIB Family! It is hard to believe that 2015 has come to a close and 2016 is here. As I reflect on the past year, I can say with complete honesty the year was bitter sweet. Bitter sweet in the sense that I experienced wonderful blessings in key areas of my life but encountered challenges in other areas, which caused some heartache and disappointment. It was in 2015, I graduated from the big girl panties and put on bloomers! Seriously, it was a year of tremendous gratitude and moments of tears. I made some decisions which caused me to grow both personally and professionally. As I leave 2015 behind, and move into 2016, I am conscious of the present moment, appreciating it, and owning who I am and living from a place of surrender, knowing that it all begins and ends with God. As the creator of what I believe to be an avenue to touch and inspire women around the world by sharing and expressing life’s trials, triumphs, and encouraging tidbits is what makes LIB so special. There are times when the rawness and realness of someone else’s journey can hit a core spot in someone’s heart, and resonate in another soul and move them. As we enter 2016, LIB will continue to inspire you with stories by women who value themselves and who are truly beautiful spiritual beings living life from a place of authenticity. We love you so much! Many, many, blessings to you in 2016!


To be nobody but myself-in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make me somebody else-means to fight the hardest battle any human can fight, and never stop fighting. – e.e. cummings

Do It Anyway

Wednesday, November 27th, 2013

Have you ever felt fearful about going in a different direction or trying something new? The little voice in your head tries to talk you out of doing it by telling you it’s “unfamiliar” or “different”, and you feel the resistance building up in your bones. It could be something as little as taking a different way home or something risker, such as changing careers..whatever it maybe, you felt unsure about it. However, deep inside your soul, you knew it was something that you had to do. Just think about the countless amazing women who have done extraordinary things despite their fears, or who have overcome tremendous obstacles and moved on to achieve great things in their lifetime. At one point or another along their journey these women felt fear, or apprehension but choose to move forward and do it anyway.  Take for example, Diana Nyad, legendary swimmer, at 64 yrs of age, swam from Cuba to Florida. That is absolutely amazing..insane..but amazing. Better yet, Cheryl B, a 50+ mother, career woman, and divorcee, decided to participate in a 62 mile bike ride and successfully completed it! These are ordinary women, deciding to do something they have never, ever, done before. This is YOU and me. During the LIB workshop “Living From the Core”, Guest Speaker and Fitness Expert “Rebecca Olsen, shared the importance of following your own internal “GPS” and most importantly being true to who we are, which can sometimes involve doing things that may be fearful that will ultimately open a whole new set of doors and opportunities that we, otherwise would have missed, had we let our fears get the best of us.  Bottom line, if there is something that you have longed to do for years, months, days, or even hours, take the steps to do them NOW!

What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step. It is always the same step, but you have to take it”  Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Are You Honest?

Friday, October 4th, 2013

Have you been honest with yourself or have you been lying about how you truly feel? Are you numb to how you feel about yourself and your life? Being honest about how you see yourself and your life takes courage. There are times when being honest means acknowledging the flaws, imperfections, and ugliness that makes up who “You” are and embracing all the beautiful, quirky, unique aspects of “You” and celebrating them. Being honest is being able to admit to yourself “I can be difficult” and it can mean having the guts to say “I am blessed!” Being honest is taking an assessment of all aspects of your life, relationships, career, health, finances, and admitting that certain areas need work. It is about taking full responsibility for your life and owning who you are and where you are in life. Being honest is giving yourself permission to simply be who you are and believing what you live, and living what you believe.


” If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself” Unknown

Removing the Mask by Kesha Hall

Saturday, August 17th, 2013

Wow, it’s August! Where did the summer go? I love the month of August. It’s hot, usually always sunny, and has such a powerful meaning. It means inspiring reverence or admiration; of supreme dignity or grandeur; majestic. I would like to start off by thanking Ms. Angela Bryce for inviting me to share a piece of me, with LIB. It’s quite ironic that on most days I feel like a lady out of balance. The moment I sat down to write I felt conflicted on just what to say. I asked myself, would the words I choose to write be too revealing? What have I committed myself to? It became apparent to me that the unknown was starting to consume me. In the mist of my mental storm I decided to step away and go back to drafting up my dream list, which I call my 10 steps forward. It’s something I have been working on for a while. One might ask, why only 10? I could choose to take even more steps forward. After all, it is my choice. Just to give you an example, one of my 10 steps was to complete this LIB piece, another is to travel to Paris. My third step is to be moved into a new living space, which is happening this month, August 31st.For most of my adult life, my fears have greatly influenced my choices. My choice to limit my options, my choice to remain a broken-fatherless daughter, my choice to remain insecure about wanting and knowing that I deserve more, my choice to hold on to stagnant relationships, my choice to care too much about what my peers may think.

I acknowledge a large part of the problem lies within me. Now I am getting to the core of where it all sits. My thoughts are saturated with fear. It’s not every day, but more often than I’ve ever dared to admit. To be exposed and naked in front of others and anxiously anticipating their judgment haunts me. It’s much easier just to smile and project the illusion of happiness. I’ve realized it’s time to take responsibility and ownership of my life. Many of us are guilty of expecting others to give more than we’re capable or willing to give ourselves. It is my duty to live up to my own expectations. There is so much material out there on different sites on how to push forward, stay positive, be ambitious, and let go of the past. There are days where that seems achievable, but far too often the thought of my own reality cripples me. My truths are what make me insecure, and trigger my feeling out of balance. It’s a constant struggle to find the balance between work, motherhood, life, relationships, etc. How I manage, is nothing short of a miracle. I work forty hours a week, commute for 4 hours a day to and from work. Somehow I have to save energy for dinner time with the family, go over the day’s events and also manage to keep up with the parent committee task? I won’t even begin to mention dating. I have offered myself the opportunity to go on a journey to find ME, reclaim me, and create balance in me. As Iyanla Vanzant would say – I have a ton of UN’s in my suitcase and I keep carrying them everywhere I go. Goodbye to my representative and hello to the real me. It is time to remove the mask and look in the mirror. My therapist encouraged me to uncover myself some time ago and I now understand what she meant. She didn’t mean to uncover for someone else, she meant undress so I could re-discover myself. Fear keeps me hidden behind the mask. I’ve decided to get in the race instead of watching from the bleachers. Winning is not what I strive for. I am not moved by money or winning. I just want to make it to the finish line. The issue is I take myself out of the race before the gun goes off. FEAR is the most crippling feeling, one I am all too accustomed. When I think of my darling angel, my beautiful teenage daughter, I realize that I am giving her all the advice that’s been given to me, but how can I call myself a guide when I don’t follow my own instructions?

Going back to my list of dreams, I am going to check off each one on my steps forward until there are no more boxes to check. Heck, I may add a few more. It’s time to focus on what I have been blessed with. Removing the mask is no easy task, but it will never happen by standing still. I’ve put on my boots and tied them up tight and I am ready to march. I am in soul search boot camp! My hope is that the bits and pieces I’ve shared will touch another soul and inspire someone else to remove their mask. I thank the Lord for blessing me with the life I have and for my friends & family that continue to inspire me. It is with great humility that I accept my own imperfections and now balance is in order.


” Our lives only improve when we are willing to take chances and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.” ~Walter Anderson

Always remember to slow down in life; live, breathe, and learn; take a look around you whenever you have time and never forget everything and every person that has the least place within your heart.”

Miracles All Around!

Sunday, July 1st, 2012

Do you believe in miracles? The dictionary defines a miracle as “such an effect or event manifesting or considered as a work of God or a wonder; marvel.” To dig a little deeper, miracles can be defined as any event or supernatural occurrence that exceeds natural explanations, into the supernatural realm. With each step we take breathe, and in every encounter, a miracle occurs. Let me share with you, over the last six months or so, I have felt an unbelievable pull in my spirit and soul to simply “be” and be aware of the beautiful miracles that occur in life each and every day. The subject of miracles, literally sends chills up and down my spine, because when we open our mind and spirit to deeper understandings that go beyond the physical, and we allow the Holy Spirit to show us just how magnificently powerful God is and we are…it will truly amaze you. Last month, my family and I went to the beach for the weekend spent some time with the family. One night, my husband and I decided to take a stroll along the beach at around 11pm at night. On this particular night it was unusually dark and the sky was unusually bright, vivid, and filled with what seemed like a gazillion stars. We could not help but to stop and just gaze at the sky above.  I am far from an astronomer but on this particular night the stars radiated through the sky. As we began to gaze at the sky, and talk about the planets, universe, and all that we know and don’t know, we witnessed a shooting star a.k.a small meteor dart across the open sky. It was amazing! I share that story with you, to say this, from the clear blue skies, setting of the sun, whispers of the wind, and sound of the ocean,  miracles can and do occur each and everyday of our lives. Let us be open to not only witness these miracles, but be apart of them, as well.   

You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one, each day brings a miracle of its own. It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle.” Paulo Coelho

What Is Normal?

Friday, June 1st, 2012

Who and what defines normal? An even better question is what exactly does it mean to be “normal”? Webster’s dictionary defines normal as “conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal”. Let’s say a young woman, scholar, decides that instead of accepting a full scholarship to school, she decides to follow in her Grandfather’s footsteps and live in the Himalayas for 2 years, trekking and exploring the land, and world around her. A few blocks away, a young woman decides to pursue a career in architectural design, never marry, but adopt children. A few more blocks down the road, a young man decides that right after college, he and his longtime girlfriend will get married, have 2 kids, and live in a house with a white picket fence in the suburbs of Saddle River, NJ. Is any one of these individuals less normal than the other? Is it considered normal for a man to stay home with the children and his wife go off to work? Is it normal for two people to be married but live in two different households? Is it normal to pray to God, Krishna, or Allah? Is it normal to be born with red hair or black? Is it normal for a woman to love sex more than a man? Is it normal to have the desire to live life with full abundance or endure life and suffer in hopes of “promise” on the other side? Who and what defines normal for you? Does society define it? I will be the first to say that I am far from normal. When I was a kid, I was perceived as a bit “abnormal” because I was “non-talkative” and very shy. Fast forward to my adulthood, I could be considered somewhat “abnormal” for some of the wacky things that I have said, done, and believe. However, that is not for you to decide, it is for me to decide. Normal can only be defined by “You”. Think about it, social norms” can be defined as a “pattern of behavior, in a particular group, community, or culture, accepted as normal and to which an individual is accepted to conform”. So in essence, if everyone is doing the same thing, acting the same way, believing the same thing, and skipping to the same tune, society will consider you “normal” or lack of a better word “a robot”.  Would you rather be considered “normal” just to be “accepted” in society or would you rather express yourself fully and be comfortable with who you are as a person. I choose the latter, what about you?


“The possibility of stepping into a higher plane is quite real for everyone. It requires no force or effort or sacrifice. It involves little more than changing our ideas about what is normal.” Deepak Chopra


“Normal is not something to aspire to, it is something to get away from” Jodie Foster

God Encounters…

Monday, March 26th, 2012

Have you ever had a God encounter? Meaning, at just the right moment, time, sequence, or hour God speaks, or appears, or calls out to you with a word, gesture, or magnificent action. A person or thing shows up in your life and confirms or further validates a specific dream, thought, or vision.  Lately, I seem to be experiencing these encounters more and more, and I feel overwhelmingly blessed to have them show up. A prime example, just the other day, I woke up feeling a bit off keel, my children were weighing heavily on my mind. My thoughts and prayers ranged from ensuring their safety and security of the kids, and the world in which we live in today. A part of it had to do with the tragedy and insanity of the senseless death of Trayvon Martin. It was one of those times, where my heart was full of grief, concern, and love all at the same time. At any rate, this particular morning, after my normal Saturday routine, I decided to go to the grocery store and pick up a few items before heading by home. As I stood in one of the aisle’s of the store, out of the corner of my eye, I noticed a familiar face, not quite sure of the woman’s name, glancing in my direction. Immediately, I recognized her as one of my previous life group teachers.  We began to chat about how we were both doing, the usual “catch up” conversation – kids, family, hubby, church, etc. This particular woman began to share how over the last couple of years her heart was completely drawn to helping children and especially kids of divorce. At this particular season in her life, divorced, but with grown son’s, there was a tug in heart to create a support group for children of divorced parents. As she began to share her journey, it was evident to me that through her words and personal testimony, I was completely encouraged and silently thanked God for the immediate blessing and encounter with this woman.  The brief encounter with this woman reminded me of  how God can often times remind us that we are not here in this world to simply exist but we are here to lift up and support one another. Life can sometimes be unfair and things may happen that we may not understand or comprehend. We have to know that through all of life’s mishaps, all will be alright and all will be well in our soul, it our job to do our best in every capacity. As we departed in the aisle of the grocery store, we left one another with these words “Things do not just happen for a reason and we were meant to meet one another at 10:45 am in the morning, God knows exactly what to do and when to do it. There are no accidents.” 

 Every happening, great and small, is a parable whereby God speaks to us, and the art of life is to get the message. Malcolm Muggeridge

Tickle Your Fancy

Saturday, February 19th, 2011

Just the other day my daughter and I were sitting in the living room reading a book, my son was snuggled up reading one of his favorite “Diary of Wimpy Kid” books and my daughter was insistent that we read “Charlie Brown’s Christmas”. As we sat there reading the story, my daughter jumps up and says “I finally know how to whistle, want to hear me!” So, for the next 5 minutes or so, my daughter demonstrates her ability to whistle, one whistle at a time. She would whistle a sec, catch her breath, perch her lips, and whistle again. If you can imagine, it was the cutest thing ever! It reminded me of when I was a little kid, expressing my “first time”.  The first time I learned how to ride a bike or the first time I learned how to roller skate, all the first you learn as a child and share with the world. As a child, it is the excitement and joy of learning something new and being completely happy and joyful of the complexity of the task, yet simplicity of it.  What about as we get older? The excitement, joy, and innocence of learning something new, evolving, and transforming into greater beings is definitely something to share and express. As we get older we can sometimes forget the zest and zing that makes our heart jump for joy when learning something new about life, world around us, and the world within us. Remember to take in the new, share and express what brings you alive and as some would say “tickles your fancy”.

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