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Tis The Season!

Tuesday, December 19th, 2017


It is the holiday season and Christmas is just two weeks away! There is something about the holiday season that I absolutely love. Maybe it’s the holiday cheer, people’s good spirits, or just the reason for the season. It is a combination between the celebration of the birth of Jesus and Winter solstice. It is often during this time of the year we reflect, give thanks, as well as bring the year to a close, and open our hearts, minds, spirit, and soul for the new year. All things that come into being must first be born and we are reminded of that during Christmas and New Year. Often times as the weather starts to change, and it gets a little colder, the last thing that I want to do is venture out in the cold, but this year it feels different. Yes, it’s cold and the thought of staying indoors is so very enticing. However, I am consciously making the choice to venture out whether it is 10 degrees or 40 degrees. Prime example, just this past Sunday, I had my morning cup of tea on the patio, granted I had on sweats, a coat, and I was freezing my butt off, but I sat there and sipped my tea and enjoyed the cool air on my face. The point is that I am taking steps to consciously embrace what is and feel the aliveness in that moment, as should you. Granted this will not be an everyday occurrence but I am embracing it at the moment. 

Speaking of feeling the aliveness of the moment, Lady In Balance will host its’ annual workshop in the early part of Feb, 2018 and it is guaranteed to be an event that you will not want to miss! The primary focus of the workshop will be owning your power, embracing the good, bad, and flawed part of you unapologetically. Our Speakers this year are two of the most dynamic, beautiful on the inside and out,  plus a surprise guest who will be joining us! More to come on that later! Enjoy your holiday and have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending” Carl Bard

Much Love,


You Decide

Sunday, March 20th, 2016

There is no rhyme or reason as to why things happen in life. In a world that may appear to be chaotic, in the cosmos there is perfect order and a natural flow to any and everything. For example, a woman on one side of the world decides to defer college for a year to travel abroad, and at the exact same moment, a young man decides to remain home to help his parents and finish school. The two meet exactly 6 months later in Manarola, a small town in Italy, and they fall in-love. A woman in her late 30’s decides to have a mammogram early, only to discover that she has breast cancer. The doctor’s advise her that if she would have waited until she was 40, it would have been too late to save her. Each moment you decide, and make decisions about your life. You decide what time to get up in the morning, you decide what to eat, you decide which route to take home, you decide to do your best, you decide to give love, and you decide to trust God in the midst of all those decisions. At this moment, what are you deciding in your life? Are you deciding to remain small? Or have you decided to grow tall and be all that you can be? Do not allow the chaotic moments to thrust you into a shell, where you stop making decisions, living, and trusting God in the process. You hold the power. Decide and trust.

“It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you get off on sometimes. What matters most is getting off. You cannot make progress without making decisions.”Jim Rohn

Gotta Love Perceptions

Wednesday, April 29th, 2015

As you go through life and you experience life’s ups, downs, hills, and valleys, each experience has a way of staying with you, shaping you, and molding you into the person you are today. If you were born into a traditional family, where Mom stayed home, maintained the house,  and prepared dinner every night,  your expectation of what a  “Mother’s role” would be slightly different than someone who grew up in a single family household where their Mom had to work two jobs. The perceptions and views of what you believe to be true would differ dramatically. The older you get, and the more experiences you have in life, shapes how you perceive the world and shifts based on your life encounters. Take for example, an individual born and raised in NY, accustomed to the hustle and grind of city life, may migrate to the South and perceive the area as laid back and such a refreshing change. It is all about perception, how they view and see the world around them. I have been to New York countless times, and even though it may be a busy city, there is a special connection to the city that is unique to me.  The same is true in all different aspects of life for you, and for all of us. How we interact with people, relationships, and even God comes from our perceptions, and how we see the world around us. How are you perceiving the world around you? Are you looking at the world as a safe place? Are you looking at your life as half full or half empty? Have you allowed life’s ups and downs to change the way you see your life? Are you looking at life through God’s eyes or through the eyes of carnal man? These are questions that I have been asking myself and I am asking them to you. Do you need to change your perception on anything in your life? Are you seeing through God’s eyes of the Holy Spirit? Or are you seeing through eyes of man?!

 “Reality is what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is what we believe.
What we believe is based upon our perceptions.
What we perceive depends upon what we look for.
What we look for depends upon what we think.
What we think depends upon what we perceive.
What we perceive determines what we believe.
What we believe determines what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is our reality.” Gary Zukov

Are You Honest?

Friday, October 4th, 2013

Have you been honest with yourself or have you been lying about how you truly feel? Are you numb to how you feel about yourself and your life? Being honest about how you see yourself and your life takes courage. There are times when being honest means acknowledging the flaws, imperfections, and ugliness that makes up who “You” are and embracing all the beautiful, quirky, unique aspects of “You” and celebrating them. Being honest is being able to admit to yourself “I can be difficult” and it can mean having the guts to say “I am blessed!” Being honest is taking an assessment of all aspects of your life, relationships, career, health, finances, and admitting that certain areas need work. It is about taking full responsibility for your life and owning who you are and where you are in life. Being honest is giving yourself permission to simply be who you are and believing what you live, and living what you believe.


” If you want to be trusted, be honest. If you want to be honest, be true. If you want to be true, be yourself” Unknown

Everything To Everybody..Enough Already

Sunday, August 12th, 2012


Are you trying to be everything to everyone? I found myself faced with this question a couple of weeks ago, when I was laying my bed one night, wide awake, and going over the events of the day. My soul was asking, my body was aching, and my mind wandering, so I pulled out my journal and I began to write and express my feelings on paper. It was clear that I had picked up the “Superwoman” role again. On one hand, I was thankful for being aware and annoyed that I picked “Her” up again. Dag it! What is a woman to do? Clearly, I had to deal with this once and for all. Today. It is evident trying to be everything to everyone is only beneficial to those on the receiving end, and detrimental to the individual “aiming to please”.  Here I was completely exhausted AFTER working out that evening, feeling frustrated, when I should have felt relaxation and ease. I took a mental, physical, and spiritual assessment and decided that enough was enough. At that very moment, I concluded my wellbeing is far more important than stressing over someone else’s issues.  I often hear women over 50 say “After a certain point in life, I simply do not care what other people think, and if I don’t feel like doing something, I don’t do it”. Well, I am far from 50 but I literally feel myself reaching that point.  What good does it do anyone, especially me, if I am stressed out trying to make everyone else happy, comfty, and “okay”? I have to let go and simply be. I will always do my best and if my best is not good enough, then so be it.  

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we are suppose to be and embrace who we are” Unknown 

What Is Normal?

Friday, June 1st, 2012

Who and what defines normal? An even better question is what exactly does it mean to be “normal”? Webster’s dictionary defines normal as “conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal”. Let’s say a young woman, scholar, decides that instead of accepting a full scholarship to school, she decides to follow in her Grandfather’s footsteps and live in the Himalayas for 2 years, trekking and exploring the land, and world around her. A few blocks away, a young woman decides to pursue a career in architectural design, never marry, but adopt children. A few more blocks down the road, a young man decides that right after college, he and his longtime girlfriend will get married, have 2 kids, and live in a house with a white picket fence in the suburbs of Saddle River, NJ. Is any one of these individuals less normal than the other? Is it considered normal for a man to stay home with the children and his wife go off to work? Is it normal for two people to be married but live in two different households? Is it normal to pray to God, Krishna, or Allah? Is it normal to be born with red hair or black? Is it normal for a woman to love sex more than a man? Is it normal to have the desire to live life with full abundance or endure life and suffer in hopes of “promise” on the other side? Who and what defines normal for you? Does society define it? I will be the first to say that I am far from normal. When I was a kid, I was perceived as a bit “abnormal” because I was “non-talkative” and very shy. Fast forward to my adulthood, I could be considered somewhat “abnormal” for some of the wacky things that I have said, done, and believe. However, that is not for you to decide, it is for me to decide. Normal can only be defined by “You”. Think about it, social norms” can be defined as a “pattern of behavior, in a particular group, community, or culture, accepted as normal and to which an individual is accepted to conform”. So in essence, if everyone is doing the same thing, acting the same way, believing the same thing, and skipping to the same tune, society will consider you “normal” or lack of a better word “a robot”.  Would you rather be considered “normal” just to be “accepted” in society or would you rather express yourself fully and be comfortable with who you are as a person. I choose the latter, what about you?


“The possibility of stepping into a higher plane is quite real for everyone. It requires no force or effort or sacrifice. It involves little more than changing our ideas about what is normal.” Deepak Chopra


“Normal is not something to aspire to, it is something to get away from” Jodie Foster

Are You Willing?

Sunday, May 6th, 2012

Are you willing to make the commitment to change, and do what is necessary to be the person God has ordained you to be, live the life you were created to live, and be the blessing that you are to this world at this very moment in time? This is a very powerful question that each and every person must be willing to ask themselves and be courageous enough to answer it with an open heart and truthfully. After all, only you, the Holy Spirit, and God will know the answer. Life is full of the “known” and “unknown” and to be willing to show up fully for yourself and for others is living life with an open heart, giving spirit, and willing soul. When your mind, body, and spirit answer “Yes, I am willing!” it is an expression to the cosmic world and universe that you are “here”, “willing” and you are “present”. To be willing is to experience the good, bad, and ugly of life. However, when we open our heart and mind with a resounding “Yes!” we experience life on a deeper, fuller level. Be willing to say “yes” to life and simply be willing.


“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;…. 
–Reinhold Niebuhr”



 Change is the essence of life.Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become.

Woman of Strength – IDA B. Wells

Monday, February 27th, 2012

As February and Black History Months concludes, LIB would like to take a moment and salute one of many, African American women who made  a difference, Ms. Ida B. Wells.  Ms. Wells, a civil rights pioneer, woman’s rights activists, anti-lynching crusader, journalist, and co-founder of the NAACP. Ms. Wells wrote and exposed lynching in the United States, showing how it was often a way to control or punish blacks who competed with whites. She was active in the women’s rights and the women’s suffrage movement. For more than 40 years, Ida B. Wells was one of the most fearless and respected women in the United States. Ida B. Wells was one of the most articulate women of her time, day, and season. Her writings often evoked passion, fury, and the need for change and justice for African Americans and women.  She was a religious woman and read the Bible on a regular basis. It was said that once after giving birth to her second child, Ms. Wells was often conflicted between balancing her family and career. Yet, Ms. Wells persisted and did what she could at that stage in her life.  Ida B. Wells was a woman of distinction, armed with the values, dedication, and drive for life, equal rights, and family.

Act as if what you do makes a difference.  It does.  ~William James


The Power of Community: elements

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

Where do I begin to share the power of community? The power of community involves people coming together to encourage, support, and lift up one another. Growing up, I was somewhat shy, enjoyed singing, writing, and I enjoyed playing basketball. As I got into my teenage years, the idea of sweating did not appeal to me, so I pretty much hung up the idea of any type of physical activity. At any rate, it was not until I had my second child that I decided I better hit the gym to 1) Decrease my chances of getting post-partum depression and 2) lose the baby fat. Plus, I wanted to feel better about myself. It was around this time, I joined then “Womenfit”, now elements, that I absolutely fell in love with the club, members, and overall environment. There is nothing more powerful, inspiring, and uplifting, than being around other women who share a common goal, which is improving their overall well-being in body and spirit. Months after joining the club, and after giving birth to my daughter,  going through a separation and divorce. This was by far the most challenging time in my life, but I got through it. It was during this time, I witnessed first-hand the power of community, and having a strong support network. I remember faithfully going to the club and working out, and being completely encouraged and supported by many of the members and instructors at the club. Two close instructors and friends, offered encouraging words and reassurances that things will get better, which they did.  Fast forward to 2012, the power of community is still at work in this place and it is absolutely amazing. I cannot express enough how much I value and appreciate the women of elements. Lastly, did i mention the club is women only? That should tell you something 🙂 We ROCK!   


A healthy social life is found only, when in the mirror of each soul the whole community finds its reflection, and when in the whole community the virtue of each one is living” Rudolf Steiner

Happy Valentine’s Day

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

Happy Valentine’s Day! It is on days like this, I am often reminded of how very sweet and precious love is. Now, in researching the origin of Valentine’s day and how it all came about…initially Valentine’s day did not originate as a celebration of love and romanticism. Nevertheless, this Valentine’s day is recognized by many of us, as a way to show our loved ones how much we love and appreciate them. Valentine’s day is a time to not only show our loved ones, how much we love and appreciate them, but an opportunity to soak in all of the love and affection that is in the air. People seem a little sweeter, air a little lighter, and more joyful. There is something about “love” that has an amazing power and energy that resonates in each and every one of us. Love is light, joy, peace, and happiness all rolled up into one and delivered from one being to another. Love exudes gentleness, patience, and is filled with all the intangible nutrients and vitamins one could ever need and one could ever want.  When we fill ourselves with the power of love, and operate in love and in truth, there is no stopping you and if everyone operated on the same wavelength with one intention, which is to love oneself and love for others, the world would heal much quicker and we would be lifted much, much higher. Now, I say this to challenge to make every day, a celebration of love.  

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthian 13 4-7

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